What exactly is body-shaming? Body-shaming happens when you directly or indirectly take down yourself or anyone else with the negative comments on body appearance.
Every human being is more or less conscious about their appearance, some more than others. People can give a negative impact on others by pointing at the flaws in someone’s body.
When exactly you know you’ve committed body shaming? When you compare your body features with that of others When you knowingly comment on someone else’s body features When you unknowingly comment on someone else’s body appearance
If you are doing any of these intentionally or unintentionally, kindly refrain from doing so. It can have a negative impact on people. People don’t think much before calling someone too fat, too skinny, too dark, etc. I want to ask who sets the conventional standard of beauty?
The problem is in our minds. When we get angry with someone whom we don’t like much, then rather than saying anything about their behavior or activities, we often say “So what, he’s/she’s ugly”. By doing this, we temporarily stop our anger, but this never ends. We don’t have any right on commenting in anybody’s body appearance.
Let us take one more example. Today, Millenials get into a lot of relationships. If there have been many partners, so even if the relationships end, there is jealousy and envy left, which is normal. When our ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend starts to date someone else after us, we do stalk that person on social media or physically, and try to find out flaws related to looks. This is body shaming. This is the wrong way to calm yourself by putting down others.
Fashion magazines and movies have given us false standards of beauty. Who says that to be in a particular shape, size and complexion is ideal? Who decides that? That doesn’t matter. Being comfortable in your own body is beautiful. Models and actresses try to keep up to a particular shape and size because that is the need for their profession. But, don’t let young girls and boys suffer because of this.
If a boy or girl wants to gain or reduce weight because they want to have a healthier lifestyle, then do encourage them. But, if someone is happy and satisfied by however they look, then please don’t push themselves to be what you want them to be.
Body-Shaming also happens at our home. Sometimes, our parents and relatives unintentionally say hurtful things about our body, they don’t realize, but you can make them understand that you are happy by the way you look. And when you’ll feel the need to change it happily, you will do it then.
It’s not necessary that being a particular size, you’ll be fit. People who are skinny and fat can also be fitter than others. Teenagers are the most affected. They are very conscious about their shape, size, hair, jawline, arms, everything. Parents should teach them to be positive about the way they look. Everybody is beautiful.
We often see in TV reality shows where people fight with each other, they comment about each other’s bodies like “You’re ugly”, “See your face, nose, teeth, height”. This gives a wrong message to the audience who follows the contestants of these shows.
Body-Shaming in social media is not an alien thing, everybody knows that it happens. There are a lot of negative comments about the body on posts, especially of celebrities. People can’t accept the fact that someone who doesn’t match their fake standard of perfection can get so much love, so they want to take them down. This shows their insecurities. People nowadays are so insecure that they make fake accounts to just comment negative about others. Selena Gomez had talked about how she was trolled for her fluctuating weight. Her talent was ignored, people just saw her weight.
Body-Shaming can have a grave impact on people. People do get mentally disturbed because of the negative comments on their bodies. They feel they are inferior in comparison to others. Depression and mental health is a sensitive topic. It can destroy someone. We should take care of others, not push them into the black hole of negativity. God has made us all beautiful. We should accept the way we and others look. We shouldn’t be judging others on body appearance. Let us all spread positivity and work hard to achieve something which will make us and people around us happy.